Handling the End of the
Road
John
14:1 “Don’t let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, and trust also in me.”
Friendships are
interesting. Of all relationships, we
take this one for granted the most. We
don’t realize how great a friendship we have until it ends. We rarely think about the end game with our
friendships. We don’t contemplate how, when or if a relationship will end. But
when it does end, for whatever reason, it can throw us for a loop. Have you ever lost your closest and dearest
friend?
In John 14:1-4, Jesus
told His disciples, “Do not let your hearts be troubled,” because of His
impending departure. Jesus had a promise and a destiny to fulfill, which was
ultimately for His friends’ benefit. This
passage is a promise for us about our eternal lives. Jesus talks about preparing a place for us to
be with Him in heaven. (John 14:2-3) It makes us feel hopeful. However, when Jesus spoke these words to His
disciples, He was looking into the faces of His friends with whom He spent the
last three years on a constant and intimate basis. Of course, their hearts were heavy. It is not surprising that Jesus’ friends felt
anxious, worried, confused and saddened.
We all feel this when we lose a friend.
Every person has a
calling to follow. All of us have
seasons in our lives, and the people that God sends into our lives during our
various seasons are an extension of His grace.
I saw an internet meme that said, “Some people come into your life as
blessings, others come in your life as lessons.” (Source unknown.) The season
the friend was in our life was a gift from God as either a blessing or a lesson.
Although we might
experience loss of friendship because of a person moving away, heading in a
different direction, drifting apart, or betrayal, we do not have to be stuck in
that moment of loss. Reflect positively
on the good of that season and that relationship. God did not have to allow that person into
our life, but by His grace, we receive a blessing or a lesson. Whether the situation was good or bad, the
relationship edified us. Rather than focus on the bad as a way to justify why
the friendship no longer flourishes, remember the good about the
relationship. Rehearsing and nursing negativity
sows seeds of bitterness, resentment, anger and anxiety from a “lack of
closure.”
During His last and
precious moments with His friends, Jesus encourages His comrades to trust God.
(John 14:1 NLT) When friendships end, we
can trust God. We can trust that He sent
those individuals into our lives for a purpose, that He will graciously send
other Godly connections for the next season, and that we have an imperishable
friendship with Him.
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